2014 bucket list

I’m not making resolutions, they’re crap and people never stick to them. It’s not going to be cool/winter here for much longer and I want to achieve so much, so I decided to make a bucket list of the things I want to do……….

Walk more

In a place where you pretty much have to drive everywhere,certainly in the spring & summer anyway..I want to walk more, yesterday we walked to Safa park. The kids enjoy walking, well Miss C likes being nosey from the buggy and LPV just loves being free.

Spend an hour a day on my blog/social media pages

This can be broken up but it need to give them some TLC, I enjoy it and they’ve been neglected over the last year.

The kids to watch less TV

Plenty of time for them to be glued to the TV when the summer comes and it’s too hot to go out.

Move more

I’m not going to make a ridiculous statement like “I will workout hard 7 days a week” as this just wont happen but I want to spend less time sitting and more time moving. Whether it’s a walk, a swim, or just playing chase with LPV.

My pills

If I ever want to come off them I need them to work effectively, that means starting the year the right way and remembering to take them. Last night I sat with EPD and poured my heart out. I don’t want to be the depressed Mammy, I want to be the one with the thirst for life again, the fun mammy, the one who doesn’t hate herself at the end of the day cos she feels like she shouted too much.

Craft

Now I’m not one of those super mothers who can bake, crochet, sew etc. The most sewing I’ve ever done is stitching the wire back into my bra!!!Most of the things I bake are not pleasing to the eye OR end up on the pavement outside nursery, boy did I swear. However Miss C would probably love to eat a couple of crayons and LPV really enjoys making stuff now he’s at nursery….So be prepared to view our monstrosities via the blog.

Memory Jar

I want us to start a jar as a family that all year round we can post in funny, special things that have happened…We’ll open it on New Years day 2015. I just want the kids to remember that mammy doesn’t always shout, cry or be depressed.

Me time

Guilt free me time, that’s what I want not much, just an hour or so a day or even every other day, with babies trying to climb up my leg, Mammy can I have a barni cake, can I watch jungle junction. Sometime I just don’t want to pretend to be Gordon or run away from the Owls that are coming all day. However if I have an hour off I will gladly be these things at any for my darlings, I’m feeling drained after the last year, I need to re charge.

Laugh

This year is to be filled with laughter, there were too many tears last year. However we’re here where we want to be and happy in our new life so they should be laughter all the way.

World Mental health day: Postnatal depression

Today is world Mental health day, so many of us take care of our bodies with what we eat, exercising however we tend to forget our mental health. With cases of depression and other mental health conditions on the increase and discussed negatively by the media it’s so important to raise awareness. To end the stigma surrounding Mental health, so people can seek the support they need, to stop the feels of isolation.

3yrs 4months, 2 children later I’m still taking medication for postnatal depression, with the stress and upheaval in my life of late it’s reared its ugly head again. I’m disappointed, well devastated to be honest, I so wanted to come off my medication this year, however it looks as though 2013 isn’t going to be my year to do this.

I’m trying to exercise more, for health reasons I’ve stopped eating chocolate which has helped my mood, a few months ago I was approached by a woman called Marcela about a guest post on my blog. She’s written a great piece on vitamins for PND, quite fitting for today!!

Read, enjoy and I hope it helps

The Best Vitamins and Mineral Supplements to Help Combat Postpartum Depression

Motherhood should be one of the happiest times in a woman’s life, yet the commonly experienced phenomena of postpartum depression can send new moms into tailspins that can potentially lead to serious, and even dangerous, complications.

Psychiatric medication is generally effective, but many women would prefer natural alternatives—an especially wise choice for breastfeeding mothers. The following are vitamins, minerals and other natural supplements that are recommended for anyone seeking optimal health, but even more so for moms in the throes of emotional instability.

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File:Pregnant_woman2.jpg

B Vitamins
The various B vitamins are some of the body’s hardest workers, keeping a stable metabolism and boosting energy levels—both indispensable for avoiding wild mood swings. Moreover, B-rich foods and B-complex vitamins are vital in converting tryptophan into serotonin, a natural chemical that tells your brain to feel happy.
In addition to supplements, seek out legumes, nuts, lean meats and cereals.
Omega-3 fatty acids
Omega-3s are highly effective in warding off depression of all kinds. In fact, they are even known to keep acute symptoms, such as bipolarity, in extended remission. Additionally, the omega-3 EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid) is a crucial support for eyes, the brain, and the central nervous system, making it a must for mothers during pregnancy and lactation.
Walnuts and fish—especially tuna and salmon—are great sources of omega-3s; however, mothers in particular should be vigilant against toxins, such as mercury, that may come along with seafood. Because toxins can be eliminated in the refining process, here is one case in which supplements might be preferable to nature’s way.
Calcium and Vitamin D
Calcium has been shown to be extremely effective in combating postpartum depression, but it relies on a symbiotic relationship with vitamin D for a maximum delivery system. For lactating mothers, no more than 2500 mg of calcium should be taken in conjunction with 400 international units of vitamin D.
Vitamins are absorbed particularly well through diet, so look to green vegetables, fortified breakfast cereals and dairy for calcium; milk and intermittent, safe exposure to sunlight for vitamin D.

5-HTP

While there are long-term clinical studies of 5-Hydroxytryptophan (5-HTP), also called oxitriptan, this amino acid and synthesizer of serotonin and tryptophan yields great results among clinically depressed patients, often within only several days of use (due to its ability to promote regular sleep). Although it is a naturally occurring chemical, it appears only in negligible doses in foods, therefore, you’ll need to visit a good health food store for supplemental capsules.

Vitamin C

One more vital way to convert tryptophan into serotonin. Citrus fruits are an obvious source of this vitamin, but for those sensitive to the acid levels of such juices, a 1 gram/day supplement is sure to reduce depression in less than a month.
Folic acid
Although technically a member of the B vitamin family, folic acid has benefits that warrant singling out. It has been shown to be effective in countering severe depression (and even schizophrenia), and of additional interest for mothers, it may be crucial in preventing neural tube defects.
Zinc
Zinc is not a direct defense against depression, but since it does reduce crankiness and increase appetite—a positive collateral benefit, given the positive effects of a regular diet on moods—it is highly recommended for new mothers. Wheat germ, whole grains and meats provide great sources of zinc, in addition to supplements.

DLPA
DLPA, or phenylananine, is another supplement that addresses several symptoms that will be of interest to new mothers. In addition to being a known mood-elevator, DLPA pumps up your endorphin levels, making it a great pain killer with no risk of addictions. As it also curbs cravings for carbs and sugars—and enhances libido—DLPA is a great one-stop for postpartum blues.
Niacin and Iron

Whether from food intake or supplements, both niacin and iron are powerful enemies of depression, as they too help your body increase its serotonin levels. As new moms can be highly vulnerable to dips in iron levels, making supplementary intake is even more important.

Because both have recommended dosage ceilings, consult your doctor on the right intake for you.
St. John’s Wort
Herbal remedies, such as St. John’s Wort—a yellow flowering plant that can be taken in tea form as well as an extract—are also worth considering as a natural route of feeling good. Unfortunately, while reviews of this time-honored remedy are glowing, product dose levels may vary, so it may take some experimenting to find your appropriate intake level.

Whether you are going to be a new mom or have already experienced the beauty of motherhood, you will want to be sure to include the necessary amount of vitamins and supplements into your diet in order to increase your chances of preventing PPD.

Marcela De Vivo is a freelance writer from Southern California who writes on a wide range of topics, from marketing to technology, as well as health, nutrition, and fitness. As a mother of three, she understands very well how motherhood can affect a woman’s state of mind

Sorry who am I?

Lets gets that smile back

Lets gets that smile back

Of late I’ve really felt like I have no idea who I am. I’m not going to mammy bash as I love my life and before I discovered my passion for nursing being a stay at home Mammy was all I wanted to be.

I don’t know if it’s through sheer exhaustion but I feel like the real me is hovering above my body laughing at this tired, haggard, forgetful medication dependant mess I’ve become. I’m trying to get in shape and loose the excess pounds I accumulated over my past 36 years on this planet the last few years. However with everything in my life at the moment I feel uninspired, I look at myself in the mirror and I look old before my time, there was a time in my life that a friend used to call me a clothes horse as everything looked good on me, now I feel scruffy, unpolished.

I’ve always missed my career to a certain extent but I didn’t give up Nursing for Motherhood I gave it up as being a new expat I needed a more social job to make friends. It was the right choice and I didn’t/don’t regret it. I feel a pang of sadness watching Medical programs sometimes, the camaraderie , the bustle of the ward, the fact I was respected for what I did. Now all I get is “oh so you don’t work?” No not really, I’m just responsible for two small lives 24/7, I’m a cook, cleaner, entertainer, I think for everyone in this house, So NO I guess I don’t work. I want to be challenged tho, the one thing that was mine…My Blog has suffered, my friendly banter with people I call friends on twitter has diminished and I’m angry at myself why I have i let it get this way. It’s like I’ve given up on myself, I think mothers of all shapes, sizes, whether your naturally maternal or whether your nanny does it all for you, there’s is so much pressure, to be a good Mammy, that doesn’t shout, or become frustrated, who looks flawless, who bakes for the coffee morning, makes handmade everything, has every child in for a playdate while she has broom up her backside sweeping the floor as she goes along. The friendly advice everyone feel compelled to share..aparently I should feel grateful Miss C doesn’t sleep during the day as she only wakes up once in the night, thanks I’ll try remember that when I put the cereal in the fridge and my body is shaking as it only survives on Nesspresso these days.

Yesterday I had some time off, my parents were here so they babysat while I went to Amsterdam. I had one glass of wine and walked off without my handbag, I found myself drawn to looking at everything for the kids, the house, the husband. Granted I bought two tops for myself but in a kind of that’ll do manner. Where have I gone I always had some kind of pride in my appearance, a bit of get up and go, not really adventurous as im a bit of a scaredy cat but at least a thirst for life. I’m not actually sure if I know how to enjoy myself anymore. how sad is that?

Stuck between a rock and a hard place missing the treat of having your family near you but not ready for the daily mundane grind on being “home” wherever that is. Is this expat life we chose the culprit??? I doubt it without the excitement of traveling I think I would have given up a long time ago.

However now I have to change, snap out of it, be selfish if I need to be as No-one like a Debbie downer, and she isn’t the Mammy I inspired to be *no pressure*