Too much

All these studies, articles research into how we as parenting are messing up our children psychologically is getting all too much for me. The campaign to ban the word “bossy”  in the states strikes me as a little bit over the top. Seriously can we as parents not do anything right? Yesterday I read this and it just made me laugh, I get that No.3 “Why? Because I said so” isn’t the greatest response ever. I recall my own mother saying this to me and I don’t that I am any less of person for it. Being told your “bad” when their just being badly behaved I got too, I do try not to use the world naughty,  in our house the children are “Bold” it’s an irish thing it means the same thing but I feel it sounds less harsh or aggressive. However again I was smacked as a child, told I was naughty when I deserved It actually it was probably all my sisters fault because I was an angel, I don’t go around smacking random people, although sometimes here in Dubai you REALLY want to. This blaming the parents for everything culture is getting beyond the joke, why don’t we spend this money on protecting children that are clearly at risk and being abused by their parents and carers?

I for one won’t stop telling my children they’re smart, handsome, beautiful………………because they are, I’m not building them up for a fall, I’m telling them the truth and if they grow up and behave like an asshole I will tell them that they’re behaving like an ass hole!! What should we saying in place of beautiful or smart? I love you so much your such an “average child, run of the mill child”?

Parenting is hard enough without having to rethink everything you say or have said to your child, I tell them to stop crying, not because I’m trying to stifle their emotions  but because If it’s for no bloody reason there’s no need for it and it just basically messes up my head. I feel these articles are derogatory to parents trying to be the best than can be. You read it, think Oh I’ve said that…great I’m a shit parent! I don’t feel like I bully my children if I tell them to hurry up, I am all for them enjoying life taking it in their stride….but LPV used stop and look at every dog poop on the floor..seriously they’re are better thing to look at if your just hurry up!! Later in life they will have time constraints for work and responsibilities so they do have to learn the concept of time. I’m not saying they have to be hurried through everything, maybe teaching them to manage this would be better but life doesn’t work that way. We all have the best intentions, we love our children…..surely that should be enough?

Rant over!

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7 thoughts on “Too much

  1. theblackberryboys says:

    Ok. I read the article. I am guilty of almost all of that is listed 😦 But I don’t think there is a parent out there who does not say any of these ever. I say HURRY way too much, but If I would leave it up to Blackberry #1, we would get to pre-school each day, just in time for lunch. I agree that they do need to learn that also, that alot of times you have to be somewhere on time. You are right that this is too much. Like that you are not supposed to say “no” to your child too often, but come on if he/she is for example about to do something stupid, I for sure am going to yell NO, like to prevent them from having an accident.
    I answered your tag:
    http://theblackberryboys.wordpress.com/2014/03/26/twenty-questions-the-mummy-tag/

  2. Tarana Khan says:

    Haha, I get you completely! I don’t understand the idea of not praising children, and the Yes philosophy in which you don’t say no to your children ever! To each his or her own, but no one should judge other parents who are clearly doing the best they can.

  3. andthreetogo says:

    I totally agree with you! I try to stay away from lists like that because it makes me feel guilty and question my parenting. I think with parenting you have to follow your gut, you know what works best for your child so that’s what you should do. I hate all the judgmental parenting crap on the internet lately. Thanks for responding to it in such a real way!

  4. hpmcq says:

    i tend to ignore the whole lot! who are these people to tell you what you should and shouldn’t be saying and doing. if you don’t parent in the way that feels totally natural to you then are you parenting comfortably?

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